huh?

What’s behind MY name?

MICHELLE Gender: Feminine

Usage: French, English

Pronounced: mee-SHEL (French), mi-SHEL (English)

French feminine form of MICHAEL

From the Hebrew name מִיכָאֵל (Mika’el) which meant “who is like God?”. This is the name of one of the seven archangels in Hebrew tradition and the only one identified as an archangel in the Bible. In the Book of Revelation in the New Testament he is portrayed as the leader of heaven’s armies, and thus is considered the patron saint of soldiers. This was also the name of nine Byzantine emperors and a czar of Russia. Other more modern bearers of this name include the 19th-century chemist/physicist Michael Faraday and basketball player Michael Jordan.

char lang!

The beating of my heart is a drum and it’s lost And it’s looking for a rhythm like you …..

(MAKING LOVE OUT OF NOTHING AT ALL of Air Supply)

kakapoy oi!

where do I go from here?

This is the question that I keep on asking myself these past few days. Another year has passed and I’m still here….waiting for what? Nothing, I’m afraid.Everone is on their heels, getting their destinies fulfilled, yet here I am, wallowing on my thoughts in misery.

I am working my ass off 4 nights each week. Each night seems sooooooo long that I keep on controling myself from pressing the headset button to end my agony.

Three days in a row I try to get my brains to work (going to school, that is!). Termpapers, reports and a lot of paperworks - I loved it before but now they have lost their appeal on me.

When did I start feeling this way? I don’t know. I can’t even remember what started it.I feel like I’m experiencing mid-life crisis on what supposed to be the prime of my life. But for heaven’s sake, I am only 24!…tsk!tsk!tsk!

I feel like I’m going nowhere. I feel so empty. I feel so tired. My batteries are drained and I feel so worn out.

Jaded. yeah. That’s me.

linger

If you, if you could return Dont let it burn, dont let it fade Im sure Im not being rude But its just your attitude Its tearing me apart Its ruining everything And I swore, I swore I would be true And honey so did you So why were you holding her hand Is that the way we stand Were you lying all the time Was it just a game to you

But Im in so deep You know Im such a fool for you You got me wrapped around your finger Do you have to let it linger Do you have to, do you have to Do you have to let it linger

Oh, I thought the world of you I thought nothing could go wrong But I was wrong I was wrong If you, if you could get by Trying not to lie

(cranberries) Things wouldnt be so confused And I wouldnt feel so used But you always really knew I just wanna be with you

And Im in so deep You know Im such a fool for you You got me wrapped around your finger Do you have to let it linger Do you have to. do you have to Do you have to let it linger

over

I’m over your lies and I’m over your games. I’m over you asking me When you know I’m not okay. You call me and I… And I pick up the phone. And though you’ve been telling me, I know you’re not alone. Oh and that’s why

Your eyes… I’m over it. You’re smile… I’m over it. Realized… I’m over it, I’m over it, I’m over…

Wanting you to be wanting me. No, that ain’t no way to be. How I feel. Read my lips. Because I’m so over… (I’m sorry)

Moving on It is my time. You never were a friend of mine. Hurt at first a little bit But now I’m so over So over it. I’m so over it…

Wanting you to be wanting me. No, that ain’t no way to be. How I feel. Read my lips. Because I’m so over it.

Moving on It is my time You never were a friend of mine Hurt at first a little bit Now I’m so over So over it.

(katharine mcphee)

shet!!!

How is it possible for love and hate to be so closely knitted that you cannot determine the beginning nor the end of each emotion?

Is it really possible to love a person merely by thoughts and not by heart?

How can one deal an emotion so strange that one can’t even name such feeling?

How can one fight an urge that is larger than life?

I hate what I am feeling right now.

I am torn between wanting and turning away.

Hearing his name keeps on reminding me of how stupid I have become.

People may know how I feel, but they will never understand how deep nor how frustrating it is .

I am tired.

I am so tired in fighting that I wanna be free from him, free from his memories ……

I’m drowning by such strong emotions that I can’t hardly breathe….

I wanna be sane again….and hopefully, sane I shall be.

(grrr!!! tua ra! gadrama na pod! shet!)

Am I still normal?

I’m getting tired of the monotonous way my life is turning. New year has come but nothing’s changed. I’m still the same old gal a couple of years back. I don’t know…maybe I am just being my “pathetic” self again. I hate my job. I hate school. I can’t/don’t wanna sleep (though I still have my appetite for food, though. Thank God!). All I wanna do is stay at home, watch tv and wait for another day to pass me by.

I miss my Bo. Maybe that’s the problem.

this song is for him….

Someday you’re gonna realize One day you’ll see this though my eyes By then I won’t even be there I’ll be happy somewhere Even if I cared I know you don’t really see my worth You think you’re the best guy on earth Well I’ve got news for you I know I’m not that strong But it won’t take long Won’t take long

Someday someone’s gonna love me The way I wanted you to need me Someday someone’s gonna take your place One day I’ll forget about you Someday someday

Right now I know you can tell I’m down and I’m not doing well But one day these tears they will all run dry I won’t have to cry, sweet goodbye

(how I wish!)

BAKIT “SINGLE” ANG STATUS KO….(alamin ang misteryo….)

Kaya heto ako at sasabihin ko sa inyo ang ilang mga posibilidad kung bakit.

11. Destiny Adik Eto yung mga naghihintay kay “Destiny” na gumawa ng paraan para pagtagpuin sila ng kanilang mga “partner in life”.. ayannn… kapapanood nyo ng “Serendipity” eh feeling nila ang nangyari sa movie eh mangyayari rin sa kanila such a cliche.. hindi ba nila alam na kung walang effort destiny is useless.

( ‘di naman….siguro ay di lang pa talaga dumarating ang para sa akin…alangan namang pumatol na lang maski kanino basta magkajowa lang…ang sagwa naman nun di ba?…)

10. Perfectionist/ Mapili Yes, isang taong perpeksiyonista. Yung tipong dapat ganito ang magiging kapartner ko. Pag may nakilala, nakita lang na pangit ang kuko o may dumi lang, turn-off na agad. O kaya ang daming ayaw. Ayaw sa mabait boring daw, gusto bad boy/ pilya pero kapag pinaiyak ka tatanungin ka bakit ang sama mo bakit mo nagawa yun! Adik ka ba?! Ayaw sa cute, ayaw din naman sa panget. meron dyan gusto ka ayaw mo naman.. ung gusto mo halos magtambling ka pero deadma parin yang stunts mO sa kanya! Pasaway ka rin e! Ano ba talaga kuya?

( pwede….pro di naman sa lahat ng pagkakataon…nagkagusto nga ako minsan sa isang lalaking tingin ng lahat ay walang pakinabang at puno pa ng yabang….mapili ba yon? hehehe…ijustify ba?…)

9. Busy Busyhan Opo, eto yung ang mundo e gumagalaw lang sa libro at ballpen kung estudyante ka o kaya naman sa computer at files kung office staff ka. Yung tipong aalis ng bahay ng alas 6 o alas 7 ng umaga at uuwi ng bahay ng 6 hanggang alas 8 ng gabi [baligtad naman para sa mga nag tratrabaho sa call center]. Sabay tulog na. Kapag sabado masaya na sila sa tv, sa pagkain na niluluto ni mama at sa linggo naman sisimba at maghahanda na ng kelangan para sa lunes hanggang byernes. Pssssst.. pause for awhile.

( GUILTY……I’m a full-time call center agent/MA student/mother/friend/sister/bread winner rolled in one. Do I need to elaborate? )

8. Friendship Theory Ano naman ito? Eto yung ang buhay ay kay bestfriend o kaya kay special friend na hindi masasabi sabi sa friendship nya sa loob ng kanilang mahabang panahon na pagsasama dahil baka daw maapektuhan ang pakikipagkaibigan at iwasan sya. Yung tipong pag may kasama si friendship na iba, nagseselos na wala naman sa lugar, pero syempre wag pahalata, kunyari happy sya for friendship. ABA ! Oi lakasan mo ang loob at baka mamaya forever mong pagsisihan yan kaw rin. Minsan pa naman pareho kayong naghihintayan. . hmmp!

( nah….di totoo to para sa akin…I can’t be friends with someone I’m in love with who’s in love with someone else..di na uso martir ngayon no? )

7. Born-to-be-one (Authestic) Eto yung nasa palad na ang pagiging single daw. Walang reasons. Basta lang nabuhay sya sa mundo na mag-isa at feeling nya mamatay sya sa mundo ng mag-isa. Kesyo magmamadre o magpapari na lang. Asa kang tatanggapin ka pa noh!

( Di ko to kaya…ayoko ngang maging old maid!!!!! )

6. Happy-go-lucky Eto yung taong walang alam kundi kasiyahan at trippings. Kahit sino nalang basta no string attach. For fun lang daw… Walang halong seryosohan. ABA hoy! yang init ng katawan mo e ikiskis mo nalang sa pader. Makakahanap ka rin ng katapat mo!!!

( ehem!!! sorry di ako makarelate….next please… )

5. Wrong Place May nakaranas na ba nito? Yung pakiramdam mo nasa ibang mundo ka. Yung ang nakakaharap mo e yung mga hindi mo gusto, yung mga hindi mo hinahanap. Alam mo yun? Halimbawa nasa ibang bansa ka, pero ang hinahanap mo e yung amoy ng nasa sariling bayan mo. O kaya naman e nasa sarili mong bayan ka, nasa normal na lipunan, pero ikaw ang abnormal at hindi mo kayang sabihin na abnormal din ang hanap mo kung ayaw mong ibitin ka nila ng patiwarik.

( di pa naman ako umabot sa stage na to…. normal pa naman ako the last I checked…hehehehe! )

4. Wrong Time Eto yung mga tao na sinasabi na, hindi pa ako ready e bata pa kasi ako o kaya naman hindi pa ako handa sa panahong ito, wala pa ako kayang ipagmalaki. Yes meron pong ganyan. Yung feeling nila may tamang panahon para sa love. Awwwwwww. Aba kelan yun? Pag uugod ugod ka na at yung time mo e bitin na? O baka naman pag pang out of time ka na? Oist, sugod lang ng sugod.

( I knew someone who used this line….hi Jong! )

3. Si parents kasi! Yes, factor din ang komyunidad na ginagalawan mo. Una, ayaw pa ni mader o pader na magkaron ka kahit 22 anyos ka na at kelangan umabot ka muna raw ng 40 bago magkaroon ng gf/bf. O kaya naman ikaw mismo! Takot sa sasabihin ni parents at ni kapitbahay na tsismosa sa magiging kasama mo. Aba ikaw na nga ba ang sabihan na.. Alam mo hindi kayo bagay. langit at lupa kayo. Awwwww. Payo ko sayo, Pakialam nila diba? Palibhasa inggit!

( Ok c papa…deadma c mama…ayaw pahalata pero pag may inerereto sa akin, ang mukha di naman maipinta…. )

2. Traumatic Experience Eto kalimitan ang reason ng marami. Ayaw ko na!!! takot na ako mangyari pa ang nangyari dati! O diba ang drama ng layp? Yes, tama ka. Eto yung dahil sa past relationship mo, e until na ayaw mo ng magkaroon at sinumpa mo na ata ang magmahal. Dahil sa pinagpalit ka sa mas pangit, o kaya naman iniwan ka ng walang word na bye-bye, o dahil binugbog ka!, ano pa ba? Madami yan wag na nating isa isahin at baka tumulo si tears heheh Gayunpaman, eto lang masasabi ko mga hija at hijo. Ibat iba ang lasa ng pag-ibig. May mapait, may mapakla, may matamis at may maasim. Aba mapalad ka at natikman mo ang ibat ibang lasa nito. Kaya ikaw, Do not be afraid to fall in love again malay mo sweetiness na ang malasahin mo next time. E di panalo ka sa lotto. Yan ang nagpapalakas sayo¦ Yang ang bumubuhay sayo, ang pag-ibig. tsk! drama!

( I heve never been a victim of love … magiging willing victim pa lang kung saka-sakali…hehehehe! )

1. EX to the nth power Oi aminin!!! LOVE parin si Ex kahit 1 or 2 yrs na ang nakakalipas. May ganito naman. Yung tipong ilang taon ang nakakalipas, hindi parin makalimutan si ex. Yung pinagsamahan, yung tawanan, yung iyakan, at lahat ng nangyari sa inyo nung kayo pa. Malungkot man at sa kung anumang kadahilanan, maganda man o masama ito, kelangan nyong magpaalam sa isa’t isa. YES, after ay year sasabihin natin, im over him/her na, pero pag-usapan natin ang love at ang nangyari sa ating relastionship from the past, TADANNNNNNNNNNNNN, eto na, sya agad ang naalala mo. At habang nagkukwento ka, ouch may kirot, o kaya may ngiti at may bumabagabag sa ating kalooban. Ano kaya yun? AMININ mo na kasi MAHAL mo pa si EX. Isa lang ang masasabi ko, well mahirap sya kalimutan alam ko yan pero open your heart and makipagdate ka, lumabas ka, at try to entertain someone. Wag mo ikumpara si ex sa iba. At give urself KITKAT, take a break.

( pwede maapply sa EX-CRUSH?….hehehehe!

Isa lang naman ang dahilan ko kung bakit…..mano ba namang may jowa na naman ( ulit !!!) ang gusto ko….kawawa naman ako…

have you ever…..

Have you ever loved somebody so much It makes you cry Have you ever needed something so bad You can’t sleep at night Have you ever tried the words But they don’t come out right Have you ever, have you ever

Have you ever been in love Been in love so bad You’d do anything to make them understand Have you ever had someone steal your heart away You’d give anything to make them feel the same Have you ever searched for words to get you in their heart But you don’t know what to say And you don’t know where to start

Have you ever loved somebody so much It makes you cry Have you ever needed something so bad You can’t sleep at night Have you ever tried to find the words But they don’t come out right Have you ever, have you ever

Have you ever found the one You’ve dreamed of all your life You’d do anything to look in their eyes Have you finally found the one you’ve given your heart to Only to find that one won’t give their heart to you Have you ever closed your eyes and Dreamed that they were there And all you can do is wait for that day when they will care

What do I gotta do to get you in my arms baby What do I gotta do to get in your heart To make you understand how I need you next to me Gotta get you in my world ‘Coz baby I can’t sleep

(Brandy)

Hehehe!!! I just got my grades for my MA last Friday and guess what? I got very good grades…even better than I expected….I think I deserve a reward. Don’t u think?

My Song

Laging bigo laging sawi sa pag ibig Minamalas o kay sakit May balat nga ba ako sa pwet Mabuti pa ang tindera sa aming kanto Nakakaingit TL ang sweet nila ng Kaniyang nobyo Gusto ko lang maranasan umibig Tamaan ni kupido Gusto ko lang maranasan ang langit Tumibok muli ang puso ko

Tumatakbo ang oras naiiwan na ako Ng panahon Di na nagbago bawat araw pare pareho parang kahapon Tumatakbo ang oras

May birthday cake ka nga Ngunit wala naman kandila May christmas tree na malupet Wala naman dekorasyong pansabit Sadyang ganyan ang aking buhay Walang kasing tamlay Ayoko sanang tumandang nagiisa

Tumatakbo ang oras naiiwan na ako Ng panahon Di na nagbago bawat araw pare pareho parang kahapon Tumatakbo ang oras Tumatakbo ang oras

Tatanggapin na lang ba ang malupit Na tadhana o kayay Tatanggapin na lang ba na akoy Sadyang hindi pinagpala Tigilan na ang drama Punasan na ang luha

Tumatakbo ang oras naiiwan na ako Ng panahon Di na nagbago bawat araw pare pareho parang kahapon Tumatakbo ang oras naiiwan na ako Ng panahon Di na nagbago bawat araw pare pareho parang kahapon

Tumatakbo, tumatakbo, Tumatakbo naiiwan na ako Tumatakbo, tumatakbo, Tumatakbo naiiwan na ako Tumatakbo, tumatakbo, Tumatakbo naiiwan na ako

He’s back!

Yeah, I know.
I’m singing the same song again.
I can’t help but smile for no apparent reason.
I don’t mind if I only have 3 to 4 hours of sleep.
I don’t care if I have a lot of other things to do.
I can’t think straight.
I’m  a total mess.
And it is because of one simple truth.
He’s back.
I am over him.
Or I thought I was.
Before, I was the one who clamored for his attention.
Attention that I never got.
And here he comes acting so strange.
Strangeness that I  cannot fathom.
He is giving signals that I don’t wanna misread.
But why now?
Now, that I am ok.
Now that I feel everything is going my way.
I feel that the forces of nature is conspiring against me.
Crap!
I feel like a mold stuck in a never-ending staircase.
I don’t wanna go that way again.
But how am I gonna stop myself from looking back?
Help!

really?!?!?

The Guys’ Rules
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At last a guy has taken the time to write this.

We always hear  “the rules“
From the female side.

Now here are the rules from the male side.
These are our rules!

Please note..  these are all numbered “1″
ON PURPOSE! 

 
1. Men ARE not mind readers.

1. Learn to work the toilet seat.
You’re a big girl. If it’s up, put it down.
We need it up, you need it down.
You don’t hear us complaining about you leaving it down.

1. Sunday sports.  It’s like the full moon
or the changing of the tides.
Let it be.

1. Shopping is NOT a sport.
And no, we are never going to think of it that way.

1. Crying is blackmail.

1. Ask for what you want.
Let us be clear on this one:
Subtle hints do not work!
Strong hints do not work!
Obvious hints do not work!
Just say it!

1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.

 

1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it.
 That’s what we do.
Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.

1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem .
See a doctor. 
 
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument.  In fact, all comments become

null and void after 7 Days.

1. If you won’t dress like the Victoria’s Secret girls,
 don’t Expect us to act like soap opera guys.

1. If you think you’re fat, you probably are.
Don’t ask us.

1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of
the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one. 
 
1. You can either ask us to do something
or tell us how you want it done.
Not both.
If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.

1. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.

1. Christopher Columbus did  NOT need directions and neither do we.

1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings.
Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color!  Pumpkin is also a fruit.
We have no idea what mauve is.

1. If it itches, it will Be scratched.
We do that.

1. If we ask what is wrong and you say “nothing,”
we will act like nothing’s wrong!
We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.

1. If you ask a question you don’t want an answer to,
expect an answer you don’t want to hear.

1. When we have to go somewhere,
absolutely anything you wear is fine… Really!!! 
 
1. Don’t ask us what we’re thinking about unless you
are prepared to discuss such topics as baseball,
the shotgun formation, or golf.

1. You have enough clothes.

1. You have too many shoes.

1. I am in shape.  Round IS a shape!

Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight,
but did you know men really don’t mind that?
It’s like camping. 

how sweet…

The passengers on the bus watched sympathetically as the attractive young woman with the white cane made her way        carefully up the steps. She paid the driver and, using her hands to feel the location of the seats, walked down the aisle and found the seat he’d told her was empty. Then she’s settled in, placed her briefcase on her lap and rested her cane against her leg.

 
It had been a year since Susan became blind. Due to a medical misdiagnosis she had been rendered sightless, and she was suddenly thrown into a world of darkness, anger, frustration and self-pity. ‘How could this have happened to me?’ she would plead, her heart knotted with anger. But no matter how much she cried or ranted or prayed, she knew the painful truth, her sight was never going to return. A cloud of depression hung over Susan’s once optimistic! spirit. All she had to cling to was her husband Mark.

 
Mark was an Air Force officer and he loved Susan with  all his heart. When she first lost her sight, he watched her sink into despair and was determined to help his wife gain the strength she needed to become independent again.

 
Finally, Susan felt ready to return to her job, but how would she get there? She used to take the bus, but was now too frightened to get around the city by herself. Mark volunteered to drive her to work each day, even though they worked at opposite ends of the city. At first, this comforted Susan and fulfilled Mark’s need to protect his sightless wife who was so insecure about performing the slightest task. Soon, however Mark realized that this arrangement wasn’t working - it was hectic, and costly.

 
 Susan is going to have to start taking the bus again, he admitted to himself. But just the thought of mentioning it to her made him cringe. She was still so fragile, so angry.  How would she react? Just as Mark predicted, Susan was horrified at the idea of taking the bus again. “I’m blind!” she responded bitterly. “How am I supposed to know where I’m going? I feel like you’re abandoning me.”

 
Mark’s heart broke but he knew what had to be done. He promised Susan that each day he would ride the bus with her until she got the hang of it.

 
And that is exactly what happened. For two solid weeks, Mark, military uniform and all, accompanied Susan to and from work each day. He taught her how to rely on her other senses to determine where she was and how to adapt to her new environment.

 
He helped her befriend the bus drivers who could watch out for her, and save her a seat. Each morning they made the journey together, and Mark would take a cab back to his office. Although this routine was even more costly and exhausting than the previous one, Mark knew it was only a matter of time before Susan would be able to ride the bus on her own. Finally, Susan decided that she was ready to try the trip on her own.

 
Monday morning arrived, and before she left, she threw her arms around Mark, her temporary bus riding companion, her husband, and her best friend. Her eyes filled with tears of gratitude for his loyalty, his patience, his love. She said good-bye, and for the first time, they went their separate ways. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday… each day on her own went perfectly, and Susan had never felt better. On Friday morning, Susan took the bus to work as usual. As she was paying for her fare to exit the bus, the driver said, “Boy, I sure envy you.” Susan wasn’t sure if the driver was speaking to her or not. After all, who on earth would ever envy a blind woman who had struggled just to find the courage to live for the past year? “Why do you envy me?”

 
The driver responded, “It must feel so good to be taken care of and protected like you are.” Susan had no idea what the driver was talking about, “What do you mean?”

 
The driver said, “You know, every morning for the past week, a fine looking gentleman in a military uniform has been standing across the corner watching you when you get off the bus. He makes sure you cross the street safely and he watches you until you enter your office building. Then he blows you a kiss, gives you a little salute and walks away. You are one lucky lady.”

 
Tears of happiness poured down Susan’s cheeks. For although she couldn’t see him, she had always felt Mark’s presence. She was blessed, so blessed, for he had given her a gift more powerful than sight, a gift she didn’t need to see to believe - the gift of love that can bring light where there had been darkness.

 
 ”You don’t love a woman because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her…”

nice reading…

He’s Just Not That Into You
by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

Cut your losses and don’t waste your time .  Why stay in some weird dating limbo when you can move on to what will surely be better territory? Don’t want to hear it?  Fine.  Here’s the answer you’re looking for, “Hang in there, baby.  He’s not the loser everybody’s telling you he is.  If you wait and keep your mouth shut and call at exactly the right time and anticipate his moods and have no expectations about communication or your own sexual needs, you can have him!”  But please don’t be surprised if he dumps you or continues to drag you through a completely unsatisfying relationship.

He is a man made up entirely of your excuses.  And the minute you stop making excuses for him, he will completely disappear from your life.

Men, for the most part, like to pursue women.  We (men) like not knowing if we can catch you.  We feel rewarded when we do.

Don’t let the “honeys” and the “babys” fool you.  His sweet nothings are exactly that.  They are much easier to say than “I’m just not that into you.”  Remember, actions speak louder than, “There’s no cell reception where I am right now.”

Calling when you say you’re going to call is the very first brick in the house you are building of love and trust.  If he can’t lay this one stupid brick down, you ain’t never gonna have a house, baby.  And it’s cold outside.

He will always be able to play the “friend” card on you.  He only  has to be responsible for the expectations of a friend, rather than the the far greater expectations of a boyfriend.  He’s got the ultimate situation: a great friend with all the benefits of a girlfriend, whom he can see or not see whenever he wants to.  He may be one of your closest friends, but I’m sorry to say … as a boyfriend, he’s just not that into you.

Beware of the word “friend”.  It can often be used by men or the women that love them to excuse the most unfriendly behavior.  Personally, when I’m picking friends, I like the ones who don’t make me cry myself to sleep.

I don’t want to be “sort of dating” someone.  I don’t want to be “kinda hanging out” with someone.  I don’t want to spend a lot of energy suppressing my feelings so I appear uninvolved.  I want to be involved.  I want to be sleeping with someone I know I’ll see again because they’ve already demonstarted to me that they’re trustworthy and honorable — and into me.

You can’t blame a guy for having feelings.  You love someone, you break up, you still have feeling.  Thank God for that really.  But having feelings don’t mean you have to have sex.

Every man you have ever dated who has said he doesn’t want to get married or doesn’t believe in marriage, or has “issues” with marriage, will … rest assured … someday be married.  It just will never be with you.

Everyone wants to be loved and needed, particularly by the person who just broke up with us.  I understand.  What could be better than hearing from the man who just told you he didn’t want you in his life anymore … his sad, wistful, “I miss you so much” voice on the other end of the phone?  It’s validating.  It’s exciting.  It’s irresistible.  But resist you must.

My friends all say I should stop talking to him, but I think he misses me, and I like that.  I miss him.  I feel if I stay in touch with him, it will remind him of how great I am, and eventually he will realize that we should be together again.

A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the woman he loves.  If he’s not calling you to tell you he loves you and wants you back, it should only be because he’s showing up at your new residence to do it in person … if he’s not doing any of that, he may love you, he may miss you, but ultimately he’s just not that into you.  Stop taking his calls and let him know what it’s like to live without you.

Don’t be flattered that he misses you.  He  should miss you.  You’re deeply missable.  However, he’s still the same person who just broke up with you.  Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he’s choosing, every day, not to be with you.

I was seeing a guy for about a month.  He broke up with me, saying that he didn’t feel like it could be something serious.  I understood and took it well.  He wanted to know if we could still hang out as friends.  I said sure.  Now we get together and go out and then come back to his place and have sex, just like we did before.  (But now, we’re “broken up.”)  He’s really, really cute and I love having sex with him.  I also think he must like me if he can’t stop being around me.  And I think it’s kinda cool — all pressure’s off and we’re having a great time together.  I’ve decided that I think it’s fine and I’m not going to call his attention for the fact that we’re actually dating.  Except for the fact that we broke up.

This guy is brilliant. He goes out with you, dates you, breaks up with you, then continues to sleep with you, which basically absolves him of all responsibility toward your feelings.  After all, you’re not going out anymore.  It’s genius!  It’s diabolical!  He should be writing a book!  In fact, I bet this guy could get his own little cult going if he wanted to.  And let me guess, you’d be happy to sign up for that as well.  For the record, this guy doesn’t “like you so much that he can’t stop being around you.”  Because here’s what guys don’t do if they can’t live without you: they don’t break up with you.  This guy is seriously not into you, it’s crazy.  The only way you’re going to figure out how into you you are … is how fast you get rid of him.

It’s very tempting when you really want to be with someone to settle for much, much less — even a vague pathetic facsimile of less — than you would have ever imagined.  Remember always what you set out to get and please don’t settle for less.  These guys exist because there are a lot of women out there who allow them to.

Hey girl.  Put down the penis, put your clothes back on, and go directly to your best friend’s house.  Do not find an excuse to stay.  Do not think that because of all the crazy hotness of it all, it now means that you’re meant to be together.  Yes, break up sex does seem like a good idea, because hey, it’s nice to have sex with someone you have these dramatic feelings about.  It makes it all, well, dramatic.  But now you know.  It confuses everything and makes you separate sex and emotions.  So now you don’t ever have to make that mistake again.  Got it?  He’s into the very-bad-idea-that-masquerades-as-a-good-idea, breakup sex.  Over and out.

Don’t underestimate the power of sex, even with someone you’ve been doing it with for a very long time.  Especially with someone you’ve been doing it with for a very long time.  Breaking up means not seeing them again, which also implies not seeing them naked again.  It might be tempting to forget this pearl of wisdom, but just remember, it’s still called breakup sex.  No one has yet to rename it oh-my-god-the-sex-was-so-good-we-got-back-together-again-and-lived-happily-ever-after sex.

He’s sniffing for something better, and when he doesn’t find it, he gets lonely and comes “home.”  It’s not that he’s so into you.  It’s that he’s so not into being alone.  Don’t give him the chance to break up with you for the fourth time.  (Even the idea of it sounds beneath you, doesn’t it?)  Reset your breakup maximum to one and move on.

Deciding to get back together with someone is a complicated and difficult decision.  Just remember that the person you are getting back together with is the same person who, not long before, looked you in your beautiful face, took full stock of you and all your qualities, and told you that he was no longer in need of your company.

Don’t confuse being classy with being a doormat.  Classy is walking away with your head held high, graciously, and with all dignity.  Being a doormat is offering to drive him to the dentist for his root canal.

Breakups, I’ve heard, are supposed to be just that.  Breaks.  Hard, clean breaks.  No talking, no seeing, no touching … keep your hands to yourself.  The relationship is over.  Half the people I know move after a huge breakup, and frankly that makes perfect sense to me.  You’re not supposed to sleep with the guy who just broke your heart a week ago.  Fine.  Next time I’m in this situation I’ll cry.  Stay in bed and wail.  Go to the gym if I can.  Call all my friends and burden them with my misery.  Sleep too much.  Cry some more.  See my therapist more often.  Get a puppy.  Do whatever I have to so eventually I can move on.

Breakup sex still means you’re broken up.

Cut him off.  Let him miss you.

He doesn’t need to be reminded that you’re great.

There’s a guy out there who’s going to be really happy that  you didn’t get back together with your crappy ex-boyfriend.

The reason it’s so painful when someone disappears is you have to face the fact that the person you loved had probably left you a long time before he grabbed his coat and scrammed.  The part part is realizing that he was lying to you, in some way, before the moment of vanishing.

Don’t give him the chance to reject you again.

No matter how powerful and real your feelings may be for someone, if that person cannot fully and honestly return them and therefore actively love you back, these feelings mean nothing.

Being lonely … being alone … for many people … sucks.  I get it, I get it, I get it.  But still I have to say that yes, my belief is that being with somebody who makes you feel shitty or doesn’t honor the person you are is worse.

Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with.

You deserve to be with someone who is nice to you all the time.

don’t you?

Don’t You Just Hate That….
By Scott Cohen

(there are 738 in the book…
these are just a few i liked.
go buy the book for all of them!)

Tipping someone who hasn’t earned it only because you don’t want to look cheap.

Banana bruises that arent visible on the outside of the peel

People who dont remove their christmas decorations untill March

White guys with a snoop dog cell phone ring

Having no clue when to use a semicolon

Recieving a birthday card 8 days before your birthday

Dear Mom,
I really hate camp.I have no friends,and everyone teases me
because I cant swim. I want to come home.
-Dylan

People who point at their wrists while asking for the time

When youre paying for something at a store and they ask you what Zip Code you live in

the momentary frenzy that ensues the instant that a cashier calls out “this register is now open”

TABLE 5:
Hank&Eve
Jeffery&JOhanna
Lenny&Tamara
Johnathan&Kathy
Robin

Being the last person on a long line that no one else seems to be getting on

When a stranger asks you for the time, and your fear that you wont
be able to answer in an appropriate time span cause you to blurt out
“9:17.NO,10:17! NO!!! 9:17!

An open parenthesis that is never closed (like this

ho-humm….

 ”You know i used to spend every day thinking about you and dreaming about you, and everytime you walked by i lost myself, do you know what that feels like? And you couldnt possibly know what it feels like to have that person not have the same feelings back. Look, i’m sorry if you miss the way i looked at you, but i dont miss the way you never looked at me.“  “You wanna know what the truth is? I still love you and I probably will love you for a very long time. But I can’t just be your buddy, because as much as i enjoy the concept of being “just friends” in reality it’s a bizarre form of torture and i’m just not willing to participate in it. so right now what i wanna do is just move on and get over you and the only way for me to do that is to not be around you anymore.”

“Letting go isn’t a one time thing, its something you do everyday, over and over again“

“It seems a little sad that I was the girl whose only purpose was to help you find out who you’re really in love with.“

“I’m scared that I’m going to end up alone. I’m scared that I’m always going to be somebody’s friend, or sister, or confidant, never quite somebody’s everything. Mostly I’m scared I’m never going to find a guy that I love as much as I love you. “

“Maybe some friendships aren’t meant to be saved. maybe we’re meant to spend a
certain part of our life with certain people…and then move on.“

“ don’t know. It’s like, there’s this person that you want to be for other people. To make them proud of you. And then there’s you. And sometimes it’s hard to tell where one ends and the other begins. Does that make any sense?“

“in the best possible way, you have absolutely wrecked me, because you see, i fell in love with you knowing that there was never any possibility of being with you.“

“So you’re breaking my heart into a million pieces, and you’re saying it’s because I deserve better?“

“Because… I saw you out there talking to her. I saw your face when you were watching her leave, and I realized that… she hurt you way more than you ever hurt me“

“I’m leaving because you never asked me to stay “

“as you know, I’m not good at goodbyes but i guess that’s what this is, a real one this time, because as much as i thought i wanted us to be together, i guess what i want more is to be one of those people who lives every moment of his life without indecision and without regrets, someone who dares to disturb the universe without a thought to the consequences, and you’re not one of those people, at least not yet, maybe you’ll prove me wrong about that one day, i hope you do, but who knows? maybe people can’t change, maybe we’re doomed to repeat the same mistakes over and over again no matter how hard we try. i always hope for a happy ending, how crazy is that? take care of yourself.“

(dawson’s creek)

mushi-mushi

               ” You’re letting her think you’re emotionally available. You’re letting her think she has a chance. And there is nothing worse in the world than thinking you have a chance when you really don’t. ” (greys’s anatomy)

                           “You never asked me to wait for you — and I don’t even know if you want me to — heck, I don’t even know if I want to . . . but something is telling me that when you come back I’m going to be exactly what you want, and you will realize I have been here all this time, and you will wonder why you didn’t want me all along. And somehow — that will bring us to our happily ever after “    -Felicity

                            “I spend 23 hours a day wondering whether we’re wrong for each other, wondering whether we’ve got the energy that we need to get through everything that we seem to get into, whether the baggage we both bring would sink a small ship. But in the 24th hour, I realize I’ve been thinking about her for 23 hours and I come back to there’s something about her, I can’t stay away from. Something about her, that makes me want to love her. “- Dr. Carter, ER

LOVE TKO

Lookin’ back over my years
I guess I’ve shed some tears.
Told myself time and again
this time I’m gonna win.

I think I better let him go.
Cuz it looks like another love TKO.
I think I better let him go.
Cuz it looks like another love TKO.

I tried to take control of the love.
He took control of me.
See you lose all thought and sense of time.
You have a change of mind.

I think I better let it go

 (from Sex and the City)